I received a letter and some pricing information in the mail last Friday from my RE's office, the same day I received the voice message from the nurse about waiting to hear from embryology. Heh. That must have been what they were working on in the 10 days I was waiting for them to call me back. It was good to see there was something that came from my waiting but it still would have been nice if someone had let me know what was going on. Then, on Saturday at 1:11 pm, I received another voice message from another nurse at the clinic stating she was calling to get me scheduled for my frozen embryo transfer. I was not expecting this at all. If I'd known she was going to call, I would have kept a closer eye on my phone. And I would have talked with my hubby about it beforehand. As such, I didn't notice the missed call for another 45 minutes. In her voice message, the nurse casually mentioned if I was able to call back before 1:30, she could get me scheduled, and to call a specific after hours phone number. If not, I was to call back on Monday and go through the normal scheduling process. Um yeah. I was a little frustrated to have less than 20 minutes to return a call I didn't know was coming. So I missed the 1:30 cutoff.
Anyway, it's now Monday so I called my insurance provider this morning to see if "follicle monitoring" for IVF was a covered benefit. Without asking many questions, the representative put me on hold to do a little checking before coming back with a "no." I could have sworn it was covered last time, and I tried to explain this to her - I even tried giving her the billing codes - but she dismissed me and said no IVF-related services were covered. In retrospect, I'm wondering if I should have rephrased my question since I'm not actually looking at doing IVF (maybe I should have said "fertility" instead?). So I decided I would call back this afternoon and talk to someone else.
Afterwards, I IMd DH that I received a voice mail from our clinic and if we wanted to try to get in before the end of the year, I needed to call back today to get my monitoring appointments scheduled. The conversation went like this:
[...]
Me: "I promise to never ask to do this again if we at least give it a shot. No #4."
DH: "Absolutely no #4. Period!"
Me: "Agreed."
Me: "Who knows if it will even work this time anyway."
DH: "Two is enough of a handful. Take last night for example.... Or the day before, or the day before." (Side note: E&E were up from about 11 pm - 12 am last night screaming uncontrollably at everything and everyone because they were so tired and had no business even being awake. E1 started it by waking up and screaming for his cars - maybe he was dreaming about them and woke up thinking they were missing?? - then he woke up E2 in the process since they share a room.)
Me: "The tantrums don't bother me like they do you. It's just a short period of time that it lasts. And a phase they will eventually grow out of. Everything with kids is temporary."
DH: "Of course it is temporary. Everything in life is temporary."
Me: "That too. So it's no big deal. It's not like you're still hitting and screaming and crying when you are with [edited to remove DH's siblings' names].
DH: "We'd only be living on the streets temporarily too after going bankrupt."
Me: "Ha! A nanny costs the same with two kids or three." (Side note: If we have another baby, we will need to move the kids from a daycare center to a live-out nanny to save $$. I don't know how anyone can afford to pay for three kids at the same time in a center.)
[Pause]
Me: "So???"
DH: "1 transfer and that is it."
Me (crying and doing a happy dance and my heart bursting with happiness all at the same time...and all on the inside since I was at work): "Ok, we'll just transfer all the embryos then. ;)"
And the conversation went on for another minute or so about me trying to collect DH's life insurance early (he has no life insurance) and if we do move forward with this, he is for sure going elk hunting next fall (to which I said "sure, if I'm not in labor").
So there it is. Unexpected progress and a yes to moving forward. I am so happy; I can feel it radiating through my whole body. (And, frankly, I'm just a little scared.) I can't believe this day has come. Oh how I want to live in the moment - every moment in this new chapter.
PS - If you know me IRL - please, please, please - keep this information to yourself so it can be as much of a surprise to others as possible.
*** Update: I tried calling my health insurance company two more times today and the same person I spoke with this morning answered again! Both times! How is that even possible?? I hung up on her both times too because I didn't want to talk to her again. I'll try back again this evening; hopefully her shift will be over by then.
I also tried calling my RE's office to get going on my FET appointments but apparently one of the nurses has to schedule me and not one of the actual schedulers. So I was transferred to the nurse line where I left another message for them to call me back. I don't remember having so many issues like this three years ago. :/ ***
Anyway, it's now Monday so I called my insurance provider this morning to see if "follicle monitoring" for IVF was a covered benefit. Without asking many questions, the representative put me on hold to do a little checking before coming back with a "no." I could have sworn it was covered last time, and I tried to explain this to her - I even tried giving her the billing codes - but she dismissed me and said no IVF-related services were covered. In retrospect, I'm wondering if I should have rephrased my question since I'm not actually looking at doing IVF (maybe I should have said "fertility" instead?). So I decided I would call back this afternoon and talk to someone else.
Afterwards, I IMd DH that I received a voice mail from our clinic and if we wanted to try to get in before the end of the year, I needed to call back today to get my monitoring appointments scheduled. The conversation went like this:
[...]
Me: "I promise to never ask to do this again if we at least give it a shot. No #4."
DH: "Absolutely no #4. Period!"
Me: "Agreed."
Me: "Who knows if it will even work this time anyway."
DH: "Two is enough of a handful. Take last night for example.... Or the day before, or the day before." (Side note: E&E were up from about 11 pm - 12 am last night screaming uncontrollably at everything and everyone because they were so tired and had no business even being awake. E1 started it by waking up and screaming for his cars - maybe he was dreaming about them and woke up thinking they were missing?? - then he woke up E2 in the process since they share a room.)
Me: "The tantrums don't bother me like they do you. It's just a short period of time that it lasts. And a phase they will eventually grow out of. Everything with kids is temporary."
DH: "Of course it is temporary. Everything in life is temporary."
Me: "That too. So it's no big deal. It's not like you're still hitting and screaming and crying when you are with [edited to remove DH's siblings' names].
DH: "We'd only be living on the streets temporarily too after going bankrupt."
Me: "Ha! A nanny costs the same with two kids or three." (Side note: If we have another baby, we will need to move the kids from a daycare center to a live-out nanny to save $$. I don't know how anyone can afford to pay for three kids at the same time in a center.)
[Pause]
Me: "So???"
DH: "1 transfer and that is it."
Me (crying and doing a happy dance and my heart bursting with happiness all at the same time...and all on the inside since I was at work): "Ok, we'll just transfer all the embryos then. ;)"
And the conversation went on for another minute or so about me trying to collect DH's life insurance early (he has no life insurance) and if we do move forward with this, he is for sure going elk hunting next fall (to which I said "sure, if I'm not in labor").
So there it is. Unexpected progress and a yes to moving forward. I am so happy; I can feel it radiating through my whole body. (And, frankly, I'm just a little scared.) I can't believe this day has come. Oh how I want to live in the moment - every moment in this new chapter.
PS - If you know me IRL - please, please, please - keep this information to yourself so it can be as much of a surprise to others as possible.
*** Update: I tried calling my health insurance company two more times today and the same person I spoke with this morning answered again! Both times! How is that even possible?? I hung up on her both times too because I didn't want to talk to her again. I'll try back again this evening; hopefully her shift will be over by then.
I also tried calling my RE's office to get going on my FET appointments but apparently one of the nurses has to schedule me and not one of the actual schedulers. So I was transferred to the nurse line where I left another message for them to call me back. I don't remember having so many issues like this three years ago. :/ ***